most men still don’t get it.
In the last thirty years I have been involved in thousands of business meetings. There were business owners, lawyers, bankers, accountants, plant managers, and consultants in the room. Most of those people were men. This is a special blog for www.ponnsabra.com written for my new blog friend, Ponn M. Sabra. And while it may seem politically incorrect to state some of the obvious things that you already know, this is coming from a man’s perspective, in an effort to give you that point of view.
Fortunately the times they are a changing! During the last ten to fifteen years more women were Judges, and owners, and everything else listed above. One common trait women have unfortunately easily caught up with men on is business failures. I have raised three daughters and want them to rule each of their perspective worlds, and I have spoken before several women’s groups with this message, so I have thought about this for some time.
A lot of men start a business who shouldn’t. There are owners left a business by their father or uncle and they are ill equipped to run a company. But they are the male heir. And since the reality is that more men work than women, we go deeper into the gene pool and come up short. Fewer women own or start a business, but the ones that do are usually the most educated, the most motivated, and are willing to work harder to make their business a success. But, what could make you even more successful is to understand how to separate yourself from being a worker to being in charge.
Men have played sports all of their lives. It is ingrained in them what a team is all about, how to handle a loss, and also that sometimes there is only one guy who calls the shots whether it is the quarterback, the best hitter on the team, the coach or the guy who owns the company. They accept that power because they have experienced wins and losses following that system. While it seems that this is a strength, it is also a weakness. Many men can’t think alone. They need their frat brothers, their teammates, their buddies to cheer them on and support their egos.
Women have started playing more sports and forming more groups and that is a wonderful thing. But don’t give up the independent thinking a woman brings to the table, spending her life making decisions without a coach, a teammate or their friends. Women entrepreneurs still scare men. They juggle home life and a business because men don’t pull their weight. Do not use a group of other women to just lean on and be like men, make your groups about education and sharing resources and maintain your independence. True entrepreneurs want to have huge success to get the reward of respect by others…but while you are laboring to become successful you really must rely on your feeling good about your self, your own effort, and never give up the trust you have that you are on the right path…it doesn’t really matter what others think. Please subscribe to my blog at www.hermanisms.com and let me hear back from you.